The Evolution of Tolerance in Midlife Women
As women journey through midlife, the concept of tolerance takes on new and profound meanings. This period, often marked by significant transitions, invites a re-evaluation of what we endure and what we embrace.
In this blog, let’s explore the various dimensions of tolerance, shedding light on the shifts that many women experience.

What Midlife Women Tolerate
In midlife, tolerance often becomes a balancing act. Here are some common areas where tolerance is tested:

Physical Changes: Our bodies change in midlife, and tolerance here can mean accepting these changes with grace. Whether its managing menopause symptoms, or dealing with new health issues, physical tolerance is about recognising and respecting our body’s needs.

Work-Life Balance: As careers evolve and personal responsibilities shift, maintaining a healthy work-life balance becomes crucial. Tolerance in this context means setting boundaries at work and home, and learning to prioritize self-care without guilt.

Relationships: Midlife often brings a clearer understanding of what we will and will not accept in our relationships. Tolerance here might mean letting go of toxic friendships or setting firmer boundaries with family members to protect our emotional well-being.

Habits and Lifestyles: Many women find themselves becoming intolerant of certain habits that no longer serve them, such as excessive drinking or late nights. Conversely, they may develop tolerance for new, healthier practices like early mornings, exercise, or meditation.

What Midlife Women No Longer Tolerate
The midlife shift often brings a sharpened sense of what is no longer acceptable:

Negativity and Drama: As priorities shift, many women become less tolerant of negative influences. This might mean distancing themselves from people who bring unnecessary drama or adopting a more positive outlook on life.

Disrespect and Inequality: There’s a growing intolerance for disrespect, whether in personal relationships or professional settings. Women in midlife are finding their voice and demanding respect and equality.

Unhealthy Habits: The physical and mental repercussions of unhealthy habits become more pronounced, leading to a lower tolerance for behaviours that impact health negatively. This might include reducing alcohol consumption or avoiding stressful situations.

What Midlife Women Use Their Tolerance For
Interestingly, tolerance isn’t just about enduring discomfort; it’s also about embracing challenges:

Cold Water Dips: Some women find empowerment in challenging physical activities like cold water dips, which build resilience and a sense of accomplishment. I have a new found tolerance for cold water and showers!

Personal Growth: Tolerance for learning and growth is high. Many women invest time in education, hobbies, and new skills that enrich their lives.

Adaptability: Whether it’s adjusting to new technologies or changing family dynamics, midlife women often display a remarkable ability to adapt and thrive.

Reflection: Positive vs. Negative Tolerance
It’s important to reflect on whether our tolerance is leading us toward growth or simply enabling negative patterns:

Positive Tolerance: Embracing new challenges, accepting and adapting to change, and cultivating healthy habits.
Negative Tolerance: Enduring toxic relationships, harmful habits, or stressful environments without taking action to improve the situation.


Midlife is a transformative period that redefines tolerance in multifaceted ways. It’s a time for us to reassess what we are willing to endure and what we are ready to change. By reflecting on our tolerances and intolerances, we can make mindful choices that lead to a more balanced, fulfilling life. Let’s celebrate the strength that comes from knowing when to endure and when to evolve.

Two Questions for you:

1) What are you tolerating in your life that serves you?
2) What are you ready to release?

A couple of questions that can guide us towards a more empowered midlife journey.
I’d love to know your thoughts and if I can help you with your journey, let’s arrange a time to talk.